Deviant Life #28

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The last time Dace appeared, he was being an ass to Audrey and a lot of people suggested she should dump him. I definitely understand why people would feel that way and they’re not necessarily wrong. Of Audrey’s five partners, her relationship with him is the most strained by far.  They do love each other though, and one of the lovely things about polyamory is being able to maintain a loving connection even when you’re not a great fit for each other. Their relationship thrives off their respect for each others boundaries and the parameters those boundaries create for their relationship.  They are outsiders to each other’s core lives, but they have a small but (usually) happy place in the middle that they create together.

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Deviant Life #27

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This one is overdue because I’m a dumbass that writes scripts while half asleep then sends them to my artist without proofreading them, then notices errors while getting ready to post the strip.

Valentine’s Day can be a weird holiday when you’re polyamorous. Personally, I don’t celebrate it if I can at all avoid it, but obviously it’s a big deal for a lot of people and it can be a beautiful and fun thing but also a common catalyst for spikes in jealousy, competitiveness, and leveraging of couple’s privilege.

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Deviant Life Anniversary #1

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The anniversary of the first Deviant Life strip coming out was actually yesterday, but because Deviant Life artist D. White and I have those nasty things called day jobs, this had to wait until today.

Working on Deviant Life for the last year has been great fun and I really appreciate all the love and support the strip has gotten.

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Deviant Life #26

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A friend posted the question of what furniture I’d want to come back as. My initial answer was my favorite female singer’s sybian, but I thought it would be more true to the Deviant Life spirit for it to be my favorite porn star’s instead.

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Deviant Life #25

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Deviant Life isn’t the first time D.White and I have worked on an online comic project together, as we’ve been friends for the better part of three decades. The world has only seen a tiny sliver of the stuff we’ve created together since we met in seventh grade.

A long, long time ago there was Roth & Earl, a comic about a redneck and a goth being roommates.  Sadly, I didn’t really know what the hell I was doing back then so it never got much of an audience and most of the strips have only survived my lack of organizational skills in terrible resolution messes. I really loved those characters, though, and had been thinking about working Rhianna into the cast already when D. White suggested we do a triple-size Deviant Life/Roth & Earl crossover for Deviant Life’s 25th strip.

Rhianna and Roth’s Sadistic/masochistic dynamic had been mentioned a few times throughout the Roth & Earl strips and it was established that they weren’t entirely monogamous either so Rhianna joining the cast wasn’t any kind of stretch for her character.  I was also looking for a way to establish that Bernard was a switch so it just seemed natural to make Rhianna and Bernard an item.

I could probably count on my fingers the number of people I know who remember Roth & Earl, so really this crossover is pretty self-indulgent, but I also know that a bunch of those who do remember are going to squee hard over seeing these characters again. I just hope those who don’t know these characters still enjoy it too.

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Deviant Life #24

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As someone who is is always polyamorous but occasionally has been involved in swinging, I’ve often found myself caught between people who don’t understand that polyamory isn’t about pursuing casual sex for purely recreational purposes and people who don’t understand that being polyamorous doesn’t preclude being able to do exactly that.

While the polyamory community has definitely been opening up a lot more in recent years to the idea that sex can be enjoyed outside of long term relationships, as relationships anarchists and those who practice solo polyamory have created more visibility for low enmeshment relationship models, there’s still a lot of people that like to slut shame and tut-tut about “real” polyamory when people are having sex more casually than they think is appropriate.

A lot of it comes from reflexive defensiveness over frequent accusations that polyamory IS just about fucking around, but the level of sex negativity can reach nearly puritan levels when they scoff as sex without commitment as though that hasn’t been standard in even “monogamous” dating culture for as long as my 42 year old ass can remember. A lot of my most loving relationships started with a friendly sexual hook up that sparked a realization that there was a strong emotional connection there and we decided to build on it.

No, polyamory doesn’t mean just fucking around, but neither does it mean you have to be deeply enmeshed in a committed relationship to fuck. Love and sex are different things that go together amazingly well, but it doesn’t diminish one to enjoy the other independently.

In Discerning Deviant news, I’m excited for the next couple of weeks as not only will the next new Deviant Life strip post next weekend instead of the one after in order to catch us up for missing an update over the holidays, but it will be a triple sized update.

As a side note, if you like the idea of Deviant Life strips going up weekly instead of bi-weekly, consider chipping into out Patreon. As of this writing, we’re only $35/month away from reaching our goal before going weekly for real.

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